Supporting parents and children prior to parental death in an NHS setting
Abstract
The Children and Families Service in Fife Specialist Palliative Care adopts a psycho-educational model of support which offers advice and information to enable parents to prepare themselves and their children for parental dying, death and bereavement. The role of the Children and Families Practitioner is to support the family as early as possible, through each stage of their journey through bereavement, as far as possible. Working closely with school staff and other services ensures that everyone concerned has the information they need from us to support the children and young people concerned.
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